Years ago, a friend of mine used to joke about the fact that I’d quote rap lyrics to explain things. She told me I needed to read more books (lol). I’ve always approached rap more cerebrally. The thought content matters to me. So, when I listen I’m listening for those heavy hitting one liners or a profound story to be told.
In the 90’s, Method Man and Mary J. Blige inspired an undeniable sense of pride for us with their celebration of black love in You’re All I Need To Get By. This song is still one that generates good feelings and is sure to ignite a room of people in chorus as they sing and rap to the lyrics. It just never gets old.
When I was younger, I didn’t fully understand everything Meth was saying. As I’ve gotten older and my values have become more defined, there’s one line in this song that causes me to wince when I hear it. In the song, Meth is doting on his woman, he says,”back when I was nothing, you made a brotha feel like he was something. That’s why I’m with you to this day boo, no frontin!”
He emphasized the depth of their bond when he said, “even when the skies were grey, you would rub me on my back and say, “baby, it’ll be ok!”” Then Meth makes a commitment of sorts to handle his business so that they “can live in the fattest crib, with thousands of kids.”
And that very next line is the one that gets me, “Word life, you don’t need no ring to be my wife!”
So, let me pause here…Yes, I know this is “just a song.” Yes, I know this may not truly reflect Method Man’s stance on relationships in real life. Therefore, I’m not coming for him necessarily. I am however coming for the droves of men who require wife-like characteristics and duties of their woman yet, refuse to marry her.
It burns me up to hear a man calling a woman “wifey” or his “wiz” (for the up north men). All the while using backwards justification as to why they don’t believe in marriage (BLANK STARE).
What in the pre-school games is going on here?